Some notes I made at a meetup around on assertiveness. I don’t regularly attend such meetups but it is good to reflect upon how you communicate and how you look at others communicating.
We need clarity, clarity comes from knowledge.
What is non-assertive? Non-assertive can be passive, but also aggressive or passive aggressive … emotional behaviour.
“A form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof. To assert oneself is to affirm one’s rights or position without either aggressively transgressing the rights of another (assuming a position of dominance) or submissively permitting another to ignore or deny one’s rights or rightful position.” – assertiveness. (n.d.) Miller-Keane Encyclopedia and Dictionary of Medicine, Nursing, and Allied Health, Seventh Edition. (2003).
Some are afraid to be assertive: Don’t get rid of the fear of failing. It exists in us. Use the fear as the lever: Gain strength through acknowledging vulnerability. Consider turning the fear into excitement through visualising a positive outcome and gain confidence.
We want to be assertive because it can help us to prevent missed opportunities.
Some may think it is a downside to assertiveness: slightly egoistic, but assertiveness is essentially representing who you are & what your rights are.
Basically, there is nothing wrong with being you :) But please, be honestly you :)
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